‘The only limits that exist are the ones in your own mind.’
Now I want you to read that sentence again. Slowly.
Have you ever put yourself in a situation where you’ve managed to convince yourself that you won’t be able to achieve something?
Or have you ever stopped yourself from taking a risk because you don’t think you’ll be able to handle it?
Now let me ask you another question…
If you don’t see yourself as someone to invest your time and energy in, with confidence, then how do you expect anyone else to do the same?
There have been SO many times that I’ve wanted to put myself out there. When I’ve wanted to take on new roles and responsibilities in work, or I’ve had a new idea that I thought may be good, yet worried how others would perceive it, so kept it to myself. Or even something as little as trying out a new class at the gym but fearing I wouldn’t be able to keep up. Now looking back at all these times I missed out on learning and growing as a person, I’m disappointed that I never knew my own worth and capabilities.
It’s funny because I hear all the time that people stop others from achieving great things because they’d rather see you fail or because they don’t believe you’re good enough. But very often, it’s not another holding you back. It’s your own mind, your thoughts and your worries that prevent you from taking that risk, taking a leap of faith or believing in yourself.
I’ve always been a strong believer that mindset plays a key role in determining the type of person you choose to be. For example, if your mind tells you, you can run the marathon then your body will eventually learn to do it. But if your mind tells you to give up before you’ve even tried, your body will never learn its own strength.
When a friend is in a situation where they don’t see their own worth, as a good friend, you know how to be there for them, to help pick them up, dust off all the negative thoughts they’re thinking and give them that motivational boost they need to go out there and achieve whatever it is they have set their heart on. It’s so simple, you know how to be there for them, to listen, to hold their hand, to be supportive, you just know what’s required of you and you do exactly that.
But when it’s you that’s in a similar situation, that needs those exact things, your response is a negative one. YOU tell yourself to just leave it, things are fine as they are and you fear you won’t succeed. OR it’s ‘how could you be so stupid’, ‘what else did you expect?’ when things don’t go as planned.
Now here’s another question…
If you spoke to your friends the way you speak to yourself, would you have any friends left?
The difference between me now, and me four months ago, is I’ve started to pay attention to how I speak to myself. When something goes wrong, or fear kicks in when wanting to try something new, and fear will kick in, because it’s natural…I have the encouraging words ready. I am my biggest supporter because only I know my true worth and capabilities. When you hear another telling you how great you are, there’s always that small doubt at the back of your mind that they’re ‘just saying it’. But if it’s YOU who’s telling yourself to do something, to go out and achieve great things, it’s because YOU know you can do it.
Start to treat yourself as good as you treat your friends, and watch how the possibilities become limitless.